So here it is folks. I wrote this article for Facebook and it received a lot of publicity but for reasons only known to the person who reported it, it was banned. I don’t like that thousands of women took the time to share the post and their voices as well as mine were silenced. Misogyny is alive and kicking in 21st century Ireland.
WHY IRISH WOMEN NEED TO BE EXTRA CAREFUL: A BLAZER AND CHINOS DOES NOT A GENTLEMAN MAKE: The Nation Breathe a Sigh of Relief as ‘Top Shaggers’ Walk.
Social media was buzzing with comments of support for the four men whose privacy and dignity was so callously abused during the Belfast rape trial. The country bowed their heads in sympathy as the boys were found not guilty of the plethora of charges against them. “Could ruin their career”….”Should never have gone to court”…”Let this be a lesson to girls”
None of us will ever truly know what happened at Paddy Jackson’s house party that night. All accounts seem to be filtered, ambiguous and subjective ramblings diluted with copious amounts of alcohol and panic.
She may have willingly engaged in group sex because she had quite a bit to drink and then later regretted her actions. All we know for certain is that a 19 year old girl had sexual relations with at least two men. Regardless of whether this encounter was consensual, the only facts we are sure of are:
-Sexual relations took place which were so rigorous that when she left the house she was “hysterical”, had bruises on her skin and a laceration on her vagina which bled for quite a while.
-In the day that followed, the boys who this nation appear to have taken to their hearts bragged about how they had “pumped” and “f**ked” a drunk 19 year old girl whose blood was barely dry on their clothes and sheets. One couldn’t be too surprised by the presence of a laceration and bleeding when you consider how the ‘lads’ described the sex. Those dimpled, sure-God-love-them, chino sporting gents compared the sex they had with the lady in question to impaling and roasting a farm animal.
It makes perfect sense that rugby fanatical Dads everywhere are “delighted” with the verdict. It paves the way for future generations to pump and f**k their daughters like pigs and take turns on their granddaughters like “a merry-go-round at a carnival”. If you ask your daughter’s lovers nicely, they might even add you to their WhatsApp group so you can read all about how loose she was and how much they love sluts like her. Sure isn’t it all just a bit of a laugh anyway? What’s a bit of blood and tears in the scheme of things when everyone had such a great night? And sure didn’t Harrison “throw her home” anyway?
I notice so many women communicating their relief online since the verdict was handed out. I agree that no man deserves to be accused of something he did not do. Everyone deserves a fair trial including the four defendants in this case. However, as women aren’t we slightly concerned that our daughters could leave a house bleeding and crying with undeniable injuries and the men she accused are proven to have lied in several parts of their defence….and the jury take less time deciding that they aren’t guilty than they would washing and drying one load of laundry?
I’m not arguing the verdict. They were found not guilty and that’s all there is to it. I do think women the length and breadth of the country need to take note. There are as many thugs in blazers and dubarrys as there are in Penneys lounge wear. I worked with some of the most marginalised and criminalized boys in the country and I have NEVER witnessed the vile sentiment those 4 lads conveyed in those messages. Perhaps their careers are ruined and their privacy has been invaded. Did they protect that girl’s privacy and dignity when they made disgusting comments about her in a group chat? Did they check on her when they learned she was hysterical or when they were cleaning her blood stains off their clothes and sheets? Did they consider her family’s feelings when they branded her and the other girls they met that night ‘sluts’ and ‘brassers’? I doubt it.
So take care of yourselves ladies. There are quite a few gentlemen out there who are quite willing to use and abuse your body and smear your reputation to score points with their buddies. Also, be sure they don’t get you pregnant in the process because the constitution will demean you further! Here’s hoping for a good referendum result.